By Sahil Mehta
Walk up to that
pretty girl. Ask her out for a cup of coffee. Let her order first. If
she can’t up make up her mind or goes for the first thing on the menu,
then she’s probably not the one.
The girl you’re looking
for will be choosy. She’ll take her time ordering just the thing to suit
her mood. Be patient. If she’s out with you, she must like something
about you. Or she wouldn't have chosen you. Don’t try and help her,
don’t rush her. Enjoy that moment. See her eyes make a rainbow of
expressions as she debates with herself. Take in those surroundings,
that moment. It might be the start of something special.
At the end of it, when the bill comes, insist to pay. Let her know you like her.
Ask
her if you may take her out to dinner sometime. And if you haven’t
screwed up completely, she’ll probably say yes, if only for the meal.
Here’s your second chance.
Take a risk here. Suggest
someplace small, quiet and not necessarily popular. Watch her face. If
it reflects disappointment, then let her see yours. She probably
expected to be taken somewhere grand and lavished with attention. That’s
not the girl you want to be with.
The girl you’re looking
for will be excited. Excited at trying somewhere new, with someone new.
She’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness at not taking her somewhere so
expensive where she can’t pay and spend the night feeling guilty. She’s
also testing you, your judgment. She’s trusted you enough to lead her.
Remember that. She’s trusted you, and you must not break that trust.
When
you get there, let her make the first move. If she reaches for the menu
and goes off on her own, then it’s not working out. For she doesn’t
completely trust you, and probably never will. When it comes to those
moments of uncertainty that all couples eventually face, she’ll think
about herself before she thinks about the two of you.
Your
girl will hand over the menu to you, and let you call the shots. Just
for today. She’s an independent young woman but she’s letting you show
her a good time. She’ll expect you to trust her the same way as she
takes you on trips to her favorite places and try her favorite dishes.
Return that trust and she’ll fall for you.
When the bill
comes, see if she makes a move for it. If she does, let her pay half. A
relationship is between equals. If she doesn't, then its money well
spent to know that she’s not what you’re looking for.
This
is a girl who’ll stick with you through the thick and thin of it. She doesn't crave attention, she doesn't need the expensive flashy things.
She’s happy with just the essentials. Good food, and someone to share it
with, everyday single day.
Take her somewhere for dessert. Take a walk, share a banana split, and fall in love.
You’re
nearly there. Go out a few more times with her. Let her take you to all
her joints. If you listen carefully, you’ll hear what she’s saying to
you. She’s making you a part of her life. She’s adding you to her
favorite memories. Each of those places has a special significance for
her; all of them have a story, and now she’s given your part in those
stories. Ask her those stories over your meal, and get a glimpse into
her life. Tell her your stories.
Date that girl. Date that
girl who loves food. Date her, because after that honeymoon period
ends, when the realization starts to dawn that you aren't nearly as
similar as you thought initially, you still have something in common. A
love for good food.
Date her because when you two fight,
over silly insecurities, all you need to cheer her up is call her over
for dinner and cook her a meal. It doesn't matter if you can’t cook. It doesn't matter if you botch it up. She’ll know that you care. And she'll
stay back to help you with the dishes, because she cares about you just
as much.
Date a girl who loves food because when she’s
upset about something and about to go into her super binge mode, she’ll
call you to join her. She won’t cut you out from life. She'll eat and
rant away to glory at the same time, and you'll know exactly what she's
thinking.
Date that girl cause when you’re feeling down or
tense or stressed, she’ll know not to ask questions. She’ll put a hot a
plate of your favorite curry in front of you and watch you eat in
silence. And you’ll feel your worries ease off.
And that’s only for the hard times.
Date
a girl who loves food, because when you’re super happy and excited, and
want to celebrate, she’ll be equally enthusiastic. Date her, because
she won’t dampen your spirits by complaining about calories and weight.
Date
her because she enjoys the different flavors of life, just as she
enjoys them in food. She’ll be game for something new, always. There’ll
be a spontaneity to her. And she’ll make sure that every moment counts.
Date
her because you’ll figure out she’s feeling particularly intimate
tonight just by the amount of spice in the food. Date her ‘cause even
when she wants to be pampered, all she’ll want is that exotic flavor of
ice cream, that she can share with you.
And date her,
because even though you might be miles apart in everything else, at the
end of the day you still both need to eat. And she knows that nothing
makes a meal quite as enjoyable as the company of someone you love.
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I've
been meaning to write this for almost 6 months and you can attribute
some of the rawness and abruptness of the article to my anxiety to
finally get it out. This article along the lines of a series of articles
on the net titled "Date A Girl Who..." . Ever since I came across
these, I wondered what would be that one thing in a person that would
really matter to me. Books, music, traveling are all great but at the
end of the day, food is what makes it for me.
